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EFT
Healing - A Powerful Breakthrough in Healing Therapy
Personally, I have had extensive experience with EFT over the
past 2 years. From the moment I learnt the technique I was amazed by the results
and began to embrace it as I could see the possibilities with EFT were literally
endless. Consequently my life has been getting better and better over the last
couple of years, and recently the results have increased several fold by making
some adjustments to how I use the technique.
At first, I used it spasmodically, when I remembered. It wasn't long before I
was using it on a regular basis when I was feeling overwhelmed by emotion. I
participated in workshops to learn more about the technique and continued to be
amazed at its versatility and effectiveness. How could something so simple be so
powerful? It seemed too good to be true.
I learnt about different variations of EFT and how they could be applied and
experimented with various things.
I did get frustrated after a while. I kept tapping on deep issues, which at the
time were reduced to a zero on the 'SUDS' scale (rates the level of intensity of
a feeling or emotion). Then, days, weeks, or even months later, these issues
would come back again as there was another aspect to them that I had not
previously realised. With some issues this would happen repeatedly and I
wondered if I would ever get rid of them.
I started to work with a practitioner who was extremely gifted at uncovering
issues I had no idea existed and I made great progress at healing my pain. This
was pain I had buried for years and had no idea I was avoiding, or how it was
ruling my life and relationships.
It wasn't until recently that I starting using EFT in a way that I have found to
be the most effective for me.
During each day there are various moments that I react to with irritation,
sadness, frustration, anger, etc. These reactions seemed to me, and probably
most people, to be entirely reasonable. Most of our lives we spend being
reactive to situations and events and, because we all do it, we generally
believe this is normal and acceptable. But what if we responded to situations
after considering all possibilities rather than reacting? What if moments and
events didn't push our buttons and cause us to react when consumed with emotion?
What if our responses were considered and conciliatory, leading to a
satisfactory resolution for everybody involved instead of inflaming a situation?
A few weeks ago, I had just arrived at a clients house. Her place was a
reasonable drive from mine, about 20 minutes, and as I pulled up, my husband
called. His battery had totally died in his car and, as he was a driving
instructor, this was an issue that had to be resolved as quickly as possible.
The only reasonable way to do this was for me to drive down to pick him up, get
a new battery, etc. He just happened to be about 20 minutes in the opposite
direction to our house, so he was about 40 minutes away from where I was
currently. This meant I had to drive all the way to him, help him out, and then
get back to my client.
I was angry. Actually, that's an understatement. I was absolutely furious. And
as I drove, I began to look at my level of anger and resentment. It wasn't my
husbands fault the car had died. And it was an unfortunate coincidence that I
had been so far away when it had happened. Why was I so angry? It really didn't
make sense. So I started continual tapping (tapping meridian points randomly for
varying lengths of time) and just allowing my underlying emotions to surface. I
was particularly mindful not to suppress any of my emotions.
(It's important to note here that I recently read some material that said there
is bliss in every emotion when it is felt fully. This seemed strange at first,
but I have since exercised this and found it to be true. Mostly we filter and
suppress negative emotions such as anger, grief, frustration, sadness, etc,
because we are conditioned to believe that that is the only appropriate way to
respond. However, when you allow yourself to feel an emotion fully within you at
a given moment, it flows through you unimpeded and actually disappears
relatively quickly, depending on the depth of emotion. When we suppress these
emotions, they gradually build until they overflow causing us an enormous amount
of pain which becomes overwhelming anger, depression, sadness and this ends up
defining our relationships and ruling our lives.)
Now, as I tapped, instead of the anger going, it became absolute rage! I did not
understand where it was coming from. It wasn't this situation that had made me
this angry. This was obviously emotions that I had buried for a very long time.
All the way to my husband I tapped and yelled and tapped. And yet, I also felt a
strange sense of calm as I released the anger. I presume that was the tapping. I
made sure I was calm and pleasant as I helped my husband and then on the long
drive back to my client I tapped again. More rage and then lots of tears.
I stopped short of my clients' house and tapped for about another 10 minutes
until I was sure I had released all of the anger, and resulting sadness, that
had been buried deep within me for many years, maybe even lifetimes! I could not
think of an event in my life that would have made me so angry, but just allowing
it and tapping at the same time allowed me to release it.
I have been a chronic teeth grinder for many years which was really beginning to
cause me problems. I have not been grinding for the last few weeks and I feel a
sense of calm that I do not remember previously experiencing.
What I learned from this is that when I am triggered by a particular
circumstance, instead of justifying my reaction and allowing it to inflame a
situation, I take time to tap and find out what the real issue or emotion is,
allowing myself to feel associated emotions fully until it is completely
released. This has transformed my life and is having an incredibly positive
affect, not only on me, but my relationships.
I am releasing destructive emotions more regularly and effectively than before.
I am calmer and tend to consider events more often and respond rather than
reacting in a way that can exacerbate a situation that could be defused
relatively easily when approached with consideration for everybody involved.
I have found this approach to EFT to be the most effective of all in my life and
I encourage you to try this too. Imagine if all the anger in our hearts was
diffused forever? What a different world it would be!
Marguerita Vorobioff is passionate about many forms of healing. For a free EFT
tutorial and lots more powerful healing information, visit http://www.healingandabundance.com/eft.htm
for all your healing needs.
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